What a beautiful time of year. I can’t tell you how much I am enjoying our “fall” weather. It’s another clear, sunny morning, with just a few clouds off in in the distance. I ran a couple of errands after my Time With God and stopped to treat myself to a bacon, egg, and cheese biscuit from Carl’s Jr. Yum. I even got to catch up with a good friend via text. I love the friends I have made – even the ones from years ago that I barely remember. So many people we’ve shared moments of our lives with as we’ve moved around for my husband’s job. The OA message can be summed up with one sentence – Success is staying close to God, doing what He asks, and loving those around you (including yourself). So, in one of those areas I am a success. Ta Da! I love my friends with my whole heart and it took me years to figure out that others’ don’t necessarily have the time or will to manage friendships how I do. I used to have my feelings hurt all of the time over it, now I just keep a little more distance.
As I’ve been working with my psychiatrist and, now, psychologist, they both remind me all the time that people with bi-polar disorder are much more sensitive to everything. There is just some part of my brain that is too revved up with whatever and it makes everything increased – including my emotions and that is how I manage my relationships. Needless to say, I struggle with them because of this.
The AA message talks about taking care of ourselves in the three distinct areas of physical, emotional, and spiritual. Their symbol represents this idea. “The symbol of the circle and triangle is an ancient spiritual symbol meaning mind, body, and spirit together as one.“
Although, they no longer use this symbol legally or officially, it still represents what we all strive for – wholeness in mind, body, and spirit. There’s that wholeness I was talking about earlier this week. In addition to myself, I would also like my family relationships to be healthy and successful in these same areas. Everything in AA is based around the three parts of their program – recovery, unity, and service. That is how I would like my family to function and, I think, we did pretty well at that. Those three things made our family whole and healthy.
The General Conference talk I read (Elder Ballard, Family Councils) was about, can you guess?, family councils . What is a family council? He describes one type with the entire family as “This council can meet to discuss family problems, work out finances, make plans, support and strengthen [each other], and pray for one another and for the family unit.” We did a fairly good job at that while the children were growing up. They were rarely formal “meetings.” Generally, it happened over dinner when we were all together. We would talk about those very things he mentions, and so much more! It was fun and now that our children are growing up and moving out, our discussions have changed also. We talk much more freely about finances, relationships, and plans for holiday/birthdays/special events. I’m sure most every family does this, but just doesn’t recognize it as a good “thing.” One more thing to learn and grow in.
In the Book of Mormon, in the seventh chapter of Mormon, he states in verse nine,
“For behold, this is written for the intent that ye may believe that; and if ye believe that ye will believe this also; and if ye believe this ye will know concerning your fathers, and also the marvelous works which were wrought by the power of God among them.”
The first eight verses talk about knowing Christ and learning of Him and His role in creation and our lives, then Mormon says the above. Isn’t this how all of life works? One thing you learn and believe leads to another and that leads to something else. It’s the same with our walk with God. We learn one thing and it leads to many, many more things. We all start somewhere and that somewhere is with a lot of questions. As time and learning goes on, we grow in our faith and trust in Him. It is a never ending process and, what a shame it would be, if we got to the end of our questions! Our life on this earth was meant to keep us learning and growing the entire span of our lives. Boy, there is SO much to learn. In Michelle’s book If Only, she discusses how our Father uses everything that happens for our good. Yes, even the bad stuff. I do not believe in a God who does bad things to people. I believe in a God who allows bad things to happen but, if we let Him, will use those bad things for our good. I think all of the time about how we can either allow those bad things to drive us closer to God or to drive us further from Him.
That is our choice. We have a choices to make in all of this – personally, in our relationships, and with our families. We just get to make choices and then make more choices. Hopefully, we learn from then and get to move on to new lessons. I detest trying to learn a lesson over and over again.